When it comes to sexual harassment, Emily May’s motto has always been “If you can’t slap ‘em, snap ‘em!” The twenty-eight year-old co-founder of HollabackNYC explains why a cell phone is a women’s best weapon.
Age? 28
Where have you lived? Richmond, VA and London, England. And of course NYC.
Where do you want to live? I have fallen in love with Brooklyn. I’m pretty sure Brooklyn and I are in it for the long haul.
What do you do? I work at a nonprofit helping to develop creative programming that helps untapped youth obtain jobs and GEDs.
For those who don’t know your site, can you please explain it and why it is an important cause?
Comments like ”Hey Baby, mmm…,” unwanted attention like groping, public lewdness, and assault are a demeaning and demoralizing everyday occurrence for women and LGBT individuals. Most of these behaviors are illegal, yet they are often socially accepted and the laws that protect against them often go unenforced. Women and LGBT individuals frequently choose to internalize the violence rather than report it and risk stigma. Hollaback! targets harassment at its source, not with brawn but with brains: we encourage women to submit cell phones pictures of their harassers and stories to our site. Each story is read by over 1, 000 people and this ultimately leads to breaking the silence.
Was there a specific event or situation that inspired you to create this site?
HollabackNYC started in 2005 the way a lot of good revolutions must begin – as conversations with friends over a couple of drinks. The seven of us were commiserating over being whistled at, cat-called, and propositioned, with each story earning a chorus of “uggg” “ewww” and “gross!” The trouble was that we felt there was nothing we could do. If we walked on, we felt victimized. If we yelled, we further endangered ourselves. Witty comebacks had their charm, but they always came late, and street harassment was more or less protected under laws of free speech. Then we realized – why not take pictures of these street harassers and post them on a blog? And so, with the clink of our cocktail glasses, we launched HollabackNYC, a blog dedicated to giving women an empowered response to street harassment. The blog has since expanded to over 20 cities worldwide.
Can you share a story from your site that is particularly heart breaking?
There are so many. One young woman who was only 15 was masturbated on, in a crowded train. We had another young women who was assaulted, and when she reported it to the police they told her there is nothing they can do – and to “get a gun.”
Why is it that women rarely heckle people on the street?
Street harassment is about power. During street harassment, men oftentimes have the physical advantage. What makes it so scary is that you never know if a comment is just a comment, or if it is going to escalate into stalking, groping, or even rape. If a woman harassed a man, the only person’s safety she might be jeopardizing would be her own.
I noticed that there are no straight men’s harassment stories posted on your site, can you explain why this is the case?
Like I said, street harassment is about power and straight, white, men are the top dogs when it comes to power. I would post a story of a straight, minority male who was harassed by a straight white male however.
Do you get a lot of backlash for your site?
When we first started we got some funny hate mail like “hey Carpetmunchers!” which was funny because three of
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